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Post by stuffymuffy on Wed Mar 17, 2010 5:57 pm

Since my due date is approaching very quickly I've been doing some serious thinking as to who is going to be there through the whole labor process and and when bubs is born If there are no sudden complications I'll be delivering in the birth center within my hospital (hopefully with just my MW) and I can have 2-3 people present during labor/delivery. My best friend who has been through everything with me, and kept me from going insane with all the crap that FOB put me through, is definitely going to be there. Well my mom of course wants to be there but I honestly don't want her there. We aren't very close and although she is very supportive and very excited about her new grandchild we argue all the time and I don't think I'd feel comfortable with her there. Then there is my OH, who is not FOB. We've only been going out for about two months but he is very excited about my LO and calls him "our baby" (which I really don't know how I feel about) and wants to be there when the baby is born. He has a 4 month old son and he wasn't there for his birth and he really wants to be there for the birth of my LO. My mom doesn't think OH should be there, my OH doesn't think that anyone but him should be there and my best friend couldn't care less as long as I'm comfortable lol So I desperately need some opinions from you girlies please!
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Post by flutterby on Wed Mar 17, 2010 6:13 pm

Sounds like you only want your best friend there, ultimately, it's your choice, if you and OH have only been together 2 months I personally wouldnt want him there right now, but you still have 3 months, and after 5 months together yo may feel differently! Tell your mum you don't want her there, I'm sure she will understand!

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Post by Lil' Bug on Wed Mar 17, 2010 7:15 pm

I think since labour is a very stressful time you need to have the people there that will make you feel most comfortable. I'm sure your mother will understand if you prefer not to have her in the delivery room and I'm sure you OH would understand as well. They need not feel left out, since they can still show their support by being in the "waiting area". Labour should solely be about your comfort and well-being and whoever you choose to be there to support you is completely up to you.
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Post by QuintinsMommy on Wed Mar 17, 2010 8:17 pm

can I be honest?
If I was you, I wouldn't want my new OH there if we haven't been together that long.
I thought I would fight with my mom or disagree with her, but I'm super happy she was the only one there, she been there before and was allot of help, and left me alone when I needed to be.
I think if you have all 3 that might be too many!
but its all personal choice and you don't need to decided now, or you can tell all 3 to be on stand by, so you can ask whoever you feel is best closer to the time? lol

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Post by stuffymuffy on Thu Mar 18, 2010 2:13 pm

Thanks everyone!
I don't think I really want OH there. It's a very, well personal time and as much as I care about him I think it would make things very awkward and I think the last thing I'll be wanting to worry about is where he is looking. I tried talking to my mum about it and she almost cried when I mentioned her not being there so Idk what to do about that, I'm just afraid we'll start arguing over something stupid like we always do.
I know I've still got to decide but they all are making it seem like I have decide right this minute. Ugh.
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Post by QuintinsMommy on Fri Mar 19, 2010 1:50 am

if you do argue with her, you can always ask her to leave

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