Warning - RANT!!!

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I'm so sick of this bullshit, I got no bloody sleep last night after the argument with FOB and I'm just over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He takes her out on a Saturday for 3 hours, I make sure she has a bottle of EBM.

I've just found out he hasn't even been trying to give her a sleep, he is out and about, meeting friends, shopping the whole time!

Last Satuday was the final straw. I asked him to bring her back eary as she had had a rough morning and hadn't a had a sleep. He didn't.

Apparantly she only slept for 5 mins...........

So of course who gets stuck with the overtired/over stimulated baby who screams for an HOUR before finally falling asleep...not him thats for sure.


So last night I tried to tell him that 3 hours without a sleep is way too long for her, usually she only lasts an hour and a half, 2 hours tops between naps.

Of course he took that as he is not allowed to take her out anymore, that I'm changing all the rules because I don't want him seeing Charlotte. FFS

He stormed out, without even giving her a cuddle.

Turns up again like 5-10min later. I finally get it across to him that I'm not saying he can't have her, just saying that she needs a sleep! So then he starts moaning that he hardly ever gets to see her.

He works until like 5.30pm, so comes over twice a week till 7 when she is in bed. At least half of those visits he has cancelled, or tried to re-arrange.

In all the time that he was working while we were together he only finished after 6pm like twice. Funny now that suddenly he keeps getting called out of town for road trips (he is a courier). Never happened before. And conicedentally he only seems to go on these trips on days he is supposed to see his daughter!

And the two nights per week was his idea, I offered Mon, Weds, Fri, but he chose to to Tues, Thurs instead.

But somehow this is all my fault, I'm the one who never lets him see her

Yeah.........thats why I have told you ALL THE TIME that you can text whenever you are free and pop around if I'm home.......have you ever done so? NO

Then last night he helped with her bath - eg holding her up while I washed her. Then REFUSED to help dry and dress her. and REFUSED to give her the bottle that I'd spend fucking ages trying to express for him. I always try and make sure that there is a bottle there for his visits as its a good way for him to bond with her. And every fucking time he says he doesn't wat to feed her. Well I'm just not going to fucking bother anymore!

don't bother, and when he ask why, say because you didn't want to, and if he wants to moan about it, let him! you are doing everything you can!

your completly in the right hun, can i ask though, does she not just fall asleep when they are out?, or do i just have an unusual baby who sleeps where ever when ever lol

Thanks guys. I just feel like I cant win whatever I do atm!

Kim- she used to be like that, but she is so nosy now that she wont sleep! She is too busy looking out the window, loves her pram cause she can see everything now shes out of the carry cot.

I also think he over stimulates her, he wont just sit quietly and have some down time to relax her

id be peeved too hun!

Your not wrong to act like that, he should be arranging his life AROUND her not making her change her routine just because it suits him. Thats ridiculous x

Haha his mother came to talk to me today about the argument, was not impressed when I told her he refused to help.

Guess trying to have a moan about me to Mummy didn't work to well for him....looks like he might be in a bit of trouble!

tell him to man up and get a grip. I'm really sick of some FOBs lmao.

we should shoot them all in the foot

Oh god no!

I'm not giving him yet another thing to moan about!

haha I suppose it would be a bad idea fter all.

god these men reckon women moan all the time, in my opinion its the men who do all the moaning

Definately agree Sasha!

All though I have to admit he has been alot better lately. Fingers crossed he stays that way

FX'ed for you

xx